Unfortunately, this is not often what happens. And it is at the end of life that individuals and families most want someone to accompany them on this journey; sit with them, cry with them, hold sacred space for them, so that the one who is dying and the loved ones surrounding them feel supported and seen, without judgement and especially without any agenda of how things “should” be. Some families and individuals want prayer; others cringe at the thought of hearing prayer recited. I have worked as a hospice chaplain since 2015, and this is something that I am built for.

Also, at the end of life comes the funeral or memorial service. Here too, families want a person who can listen not only to their needs, but to the life of the loved one. I work with my families by intensely listening to the stories of your loved one’s life and craft a service that speaks to the beauty of the deceased. I strive to create a sacred space where family members and friends can speak as much or as little as they need to, to eulogize their loved one who has passed. Some people want a more religious ceremony, others not so much. Whatever speaks most to your heart, that is what I strive to provide.

I also stay in touch with families after the funeral. If you need additional support, I am able to make referrals to bereavement support groups, if this is something you request or need.